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Sunday 23 November 2014

What Makes a Man Fall in Love?

What makes men fall in love is divided into the following areas depending on the part or scope you view it
Why does he fall for one woman over another
What makes a man fall completely head over heels in love? certain qualities he’s looking for, or basic chemistry? Here’s what man had to say…

 “He has to be ‘captivated’ by the total package of her…her personality, her brain, her body, her smell, her unknowable, mysterious allure…his brain has to feel he can’t live without her…that she must be a part of his future!”


Louann Brizendine, M.D., author of The Male Brain

He Feels Like He Can Make Her Happy

“Ultimately what men and women want is the same — they want to feel connected, they want to feel attraction, and to experience passion. A man is looking for a woman with a smile. Men bond with women when men feel successful in making them happy. A woman needs to focus less on making her man happy — and focus more on how he makes her happy.”  – John Gray, Ph.D., author of the Mars Venus Book series

It’s All Part of the Journey

“Falling in love feels like an accidental occurrence to many people, but in spiritual terms it is not — it is the entrance point to love’s eternal journey.” – Deepak Chopra, M.D. and author of the new book Spiritual Solutions: Answers to Life’s Greatest Challenges

When She’s Open to Love

“A man will fall in love when you give off the signals that you are truly looking for — and ready for — lasting love. The cues you give off are everywhere: Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable and really let him see who you are? Are you confident in your sense of self? Do you know what you want from life and where you are headed? Another key element in showing you’re ready for love is having a strong sense of respect, both for yourself and for him. Men want to know that you think they are worthy of love. They also need to see that you know you are deserving of love. Men will fall in love with someone who is open, receptive, and ready to be loved.”  – Dr. Shannon Kolakowski, Licensed Psychologist and Author

 She’s the Total Package

“The answer doesn’t sound sexy, but a man falls in love when his feelings for a woman reach a critical mass. He spends time with her and he sees that she is kind, loving, affectionate, loyal, fun, sexy, and of a positive spirit in quantities that reach a certain weight. One day he thinks, ‘Wow, I love this woman.’ He may not know why, but his mind/heart have taken a look at her in an in-depth way.” – Grant Langston, Sr. Director, eHarmony
 She Says Yes to the Game of Life
“Finding a person who fits into his life without huge disruptions is important. Men may like to ogle high-maintenance women, but they’re not the women they marry. A willingness to say, ‘Yes, I’ll try that’ — whether it’s trying exotic food he likes, sports he plays, places he wants to go — makes a man fall hard. It’s not to say that you have to love everything he loves…but at least you’re willing to try!” – Cathleya Schroeckenstein, Editor-in-Chief, Weddingbee

7. Like Attracts Like

“Attraction, compatibility, and that magical spark that makes you think someone was made just for you.”-Erina Lee, Senior Research Scientist, eHarmony
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There’s Purpose and Passion


“No other emotion seems more mysterious than love. At it’s core, falling in love is driven by our desire for happiness. It’s often sparked by physical attraction; it lasts with deep points of connection that leave him feeling purposeful, fulfilled, attractive, energized and…loved.”  – Executive and Life Coach Barbara Waxman

Things that can make him fall and stay in love
ANOTHER RESOURCE PUTS IT FORWARD THAT MEN FALL IN LOVE FOR THE FOLLWING REASONS
Ask his opinion.
Whether it's about your 401(k) options or the best travel sites, it telegraphs that you value his brain as much as you do his brawn.
Don his clothes. It shows that you've chosen him over other guys — sexy.
Blow him off.
Men hate the idea of being tied down socially, so turn down occasional plans. He'll not only feel easier — and open up more — around you, but he'll also start to wonder what you're doing and pursue you more.
Share your own fears.
Guys often hold back because they think most chicks are baby-hungry ring-hunters. So if you feel nervous about committing, let him know. He'll be reassured that you're navigating new waters too, not trying to trap him.
Respect his privacy.
A physical space that's totally his is a huge symbol of independence to a man. Signal that you respect that by, say, staying out of desk drawers and not peeking at his caller ID when his phone rings.
Make him happier.
Laugh when one of you loses balance during sex. Go to stupid movies. Drag him out when he's crabby. If you can keep things light, even during stressful times, you'll become indispensable.
Be a social butterfly.
Guys are good at left-brain stuff, like sales and sports, but can get awkward when it comes to social graces. Take the lead and charm the people you meet and he'll be extra grateful to have you. But he may take credit for making those new friends...whatever.
Play mind games.
Activities that require mental prowess — like Scrabble, puzzles, and chess — can prod his passion. It sounds nuts, but proof of your problem-solving abilities subconsciously shows him you're a desirable choice for carrying on his genes.
Cook together.
Being around food spikes oxytocin levels in males. The more often you prep dinner deux, the more he'll associate you with the good feelings he gets from eating it.
Wear soft materials.
Delicate textures like rayon, silk, and fur trigger an intense response in men. These fabrics accentuate your softer, feminine nature, which heightens his amorous instincts.
The Desire: To Protect
Believe it or not, the so-called stoic sex is hardwired to nurture. Sheltering you from harm makes him feel studly, which makes him feel good. "Not that you should act helpless, but letting him see your vulnerable side will bring him closer because it unlocks his instincts to take care of you," says David Givens, PhD, author of Love Signals. So give him chances to take charge, and thank him after he does. When a guy associates you with feeling like Superman, of course he'll want to couple up. These little things can draw out his hero side.


References; eharmony.com, cosmopolitan.com,personal research and google images

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