In every
relationship or marriage, the major worries is the issue of infidelity and this
is something that has eaten deep into the marrow like disease. Thankfully, I
have been researching on this issue and these are some of the results that can
help you know if your spouse is cheating on you
1.
DELETE SYNDROM: Your spouse deletes text history,
call history or chat history. ‘If your partner makes sure
that old messages are deleted — or worse — he deletes them as soon as he
finishes a conversation with someone, there may be more going on than just
texting’. — Michael Howard
2.
THE PRIVATE CALL STUFFS: Once you start noticing your partner
making or receiving calls in private too often, then it becomes something to
worry about. This is imperative if it’s a new behavior.
3. DIFFERENT SCENT OR SMELL AFTER WORK: if your spouse especially for a man, who
after work comes home and you notice a different smell or scent on him. This
definitely mean he is having an affair outside your relationship. According to Wendy Kay,
I quote ‘If he’s coming home freshly showered after a full day of work,
the same way he left for work, you may have a hint he’s having an affair’.
4. OBSERVE HOW THEY SPEND TIME: This is when your spouse suddenly avoids family gatherings
and get together with friends. Now he or she likes to leave early if available
for such events and when you try to trace where they left for, you cant trace
such movements to maybe their home or any relative, then it means they have
someone of the opposite sex that excites them. Also, if your spouse now have
little or no time for you and has more time for someone else of the opposite
sex. You need no prophet to tell you that your partner is having an extra
relationship affairs.
5. THE LIMITED TOUCH RULE: This I have noticed or heard from some married folks. Sometimes affection drops off a bit due to poor communication,
unresolved issues or a recent argument. But in a situation your partner starts repelling
you with odd excuses, then you have issue of cheating. Moreso, if for no
reason, behavior changes, it means your partner is seeing someone else.
I have heard couple of times from different people the sayings like ‘A
man will say his wife didn’t allow him to touch her, one even said he hasn’t
touched his wife for months…wake up bro, someone else is helping you’. Another
time, a woman said his husband comes home late and tired and can’t have sex
with her. That she has been starved of sex for close to a year now… I just
looked and the only thing I wish I could tell her was sister or madam wake up
because your husband is been sexfilled by another lady out there.
6. THE NEW LOOK THING: this is mostly for married couples. You notice your spouse dressing
nicely for no occasion and suddenly goes out unannounced, or your partner
anytime they go out, will come back late while you know that all other people
that went for the event has closed. Then it is for you to know now that your
spouse has someone else.
7. MULTIPLE E-MAIL OR SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. One thing I know is that folks in committed relationship
don’t need have hidden or different social media accounts. If you find out your
spouse has or is keeping secret social media accounts, it means there is a
problem of infidelity at hand. This is sequel to
8. KEEPING SECRETS OR MAKING SECRET MOVES: you just can’t explain your spouse
movements or where about. They just go or come in and when asked, all you get
is filthy excuses. all of a sudden you’re not
supposed to know his whereabouts or who he’s talking to on the phone
9. ANGER MOOD ACTIVATED: Every little thing you do makes your partner angry and
anytime you ask they just tell you that you are a trouble maker, you are boring
and you just do not excite him/her. They start saying that you complain a whole
lot and most times out of anger start comparing you.
10.
THEY
MAKE EXCUSES AND ARE DEFENSIVE ON EVERY OCCASION.
11.
CHANGES: once you pay attention to your
spouses’ attitude and behaviours, and you notice changes which are totally
different and are negative effects on the relationship. Behaviours and attitude
changes like keeping late nights which you never noticed before, love for
parties for one who is not known for this triat, goes to beach without you or
other kinds of things which are not normal.
12.
Talks
more about someone else especially of the opposite sex
by Maduka Tony